a haven for traumatically bereaved humans and rescued animals in MA
Our PURPOSE is to nurture the holistic well-being of grieving humans and hurting animals by providing them access to restorative environments and activities. At our carefarm, we foster relationships of support to reduce isolation and provide a source of compassion and companionship.
Our VISION is that all animals and humans living with the effects of bereavement and suffering need a haven in which to breathe, mourn, and receive nourishment in unhurried, gentle ways through connection with the land, self, and others.
traumatic bereavement = death of an important person + trauma reactions
This is not necessarily about what happened, but how you or someone you know responds internally to the death.
Common reactions include:
intrusive memories about the death
nightmares
avoidance and numbing
trouble sleeping or concentrating
thoughts of wanting to die
bodily aches and pains
fear of safety for self or others, and more.
These responses can often be seen with a violent, sudden or unexpected death, after a prolonged illness, or when a relationship is “highly dependent” such as with the death of a child, parent/caregiver, or sibling.
(The National Child Traumatic Stress Network; Cacciatore et al., 2020, p. 2)
youth need our support
1 in 13 youth in Massachusetts will experience the death of a parent or sibling by age 18
As median household income decreases, this number increases to 1 in 10
By the age of 25, the number of bereaved youth more than doubles, a ratio of 1 in 5
(Judi’s House, Childhood Bereavement Estimation Model, 2024)
You are not a statistic.
You’ve lost someone important and your story matters.
You’re hurting, and your world has forever changed. Your friends have moved on. How do you live in this reality when no one else gets it?
We are here for you.
you’re grieving.
you’re parenting/caregiving.
it’s all too much.
You may wonder…
How do I share about this person’s death with the child in my care? How do I answer their questions?
What behaviors or emotions should I expect from my youth after someone dies?
How do I help them with their emotions and find ways to remember, talk about, or honor their/our person?
Where can I find other caregivers who know what this feels like?
We can partner with you.
This goat, Clyde, is lovingly cared for by the folks at Unity Farm Sanctuary in Sherborn, MA.
animals are worthy of a fulfilling life
We believe that all beings, whether humans or animals, deserve to feel safe, loved, and cared for. Animals create social bonds that are often considered irrelevant or nonexistent across our world. They, too, can experience trauma after a lifelong companion dies, from abuse or neglect, or experiences on industrial farms. We long to offer you another perspective with which to view these beautiful beings as you form relationships with them and witness their sentience.
“…grief is not a problem to be solved, not a condition to be medicated, but a deep encounter with an essential experience of being human. Grief becomes problematic when the conditions needed to help us work with grief are absent.”
— Francis Weller, The Wild Edge of Sorrow
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